I Knew Who My Family Was, Until...

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All my life, I knew who my family was...who my mom was and who my father was. I had one brother (J), and that's it. Or so I thought. When I was 28 years old, I was using MySpace way more than Facebook, and my sister-in-law (K) found me on MySpace. Well, let's just say this came as a shock to me, for one thing my brother, J, wasn't married...for two...this woman knew a good bit about me.

K wrote to me on behalf of her husband, E, who I have found out is indeed my half-brother. She said he had been looking for me for about 10 years, ever since he found out I existed (I had no idea during that time he existed, let alone 2 other half-sisters). He had heard I was at a Florida college, and so he tried looking at UF (AS IF)...well as luck would have it, I was at FSU (GO NOLES!). She decided that fateful Oct. 2007 day to look me up on MySpace and there I was...she later told me she was so nervous writing me not knowing what I'd say.

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Well, when I got that email, I was at work...and I couldn't work anymore that day. She knew who my parents were...and knew where I was from...etc. Whoa! In the back of my mind was something my mom had said to me when I was in high school - she had told me that my father wasn't my father...and I told her, "You're lying, because you hate him." Since, they were long divorced. Well, you'd think someone else trying to tell something would continue to tell them, but apparently that was enough for her to not tell me.

I tried to call my mom to confirm with her, but she was unreachable at this time. I told my grandma (mom's mom) about this..and she said she didn't know anything about me having a father other than (D), but she could believe it. So, K and I conversed some more...and she knew a good bit, but not all...and well I had a lot to find out about! And, my mom finally confirmed that she was 99.9% sure this other man, E, was my father. Whoa. Hello! Wasn't there any other time before they contacted me that you'd think you'd want to tell me? Her response, "I would have told you if you dated {last name}." Awe, thanks for looking out for me mom!

What I found out was: my mom had been dating E when she was 18, she got pregnant with me, and he broke up with her around that time (not that he knew at the time she was pregnant) and had gotten with another women (actually cheated on my mom - hurt her bad as an 18 yr old who was pregnant). She knew D, and he was there the whole time she was pregnant and after she had me, she told everyone that he was the father. He eventually "adopted" me. E apparently tried to get in touch with my mom about me, but she said he was never to have anything to do with me. So, that's how that happened.

Well, turns out that J is my half-brother...because my mom is still my mom and his. D is his father. E had other kids, so they are my other half-siblings - A (older sister), E (younger brother), and C (younger sister). Weird to go from 1 sibling to 4 overnight. And, that means my whole paternal side of my ancestry research was wrong - I now had this whole other side. And this added another grandma and a great-grandmother (still alive, she's 95).

Now, I have a mom, a birth father, and an adoptive father. Whhhhat? Just like that. I also have 3 grandmas, a grandfather, and a great-grandmother still alive. That's pretty awesome. ;) What saddens me though, when doing my ancestry research, is seeing that I could have known almost all of my great-grandparents - it seems most were alive when I was younger (also on my mom's side, but that's another crazy story - let's just say I still wonder why when my mom found out her aunt was her grandma, why then she didn't think it was a good time to tell me - that was in like 1991).

So, yep. And great for genealogy, the new paternal side had done a lot of research and had their ancestry all the way back to the first one to come over in the 1600s...so that was pretty exciting.

Oh, also with the "new" siblings came 9 nieces and nephews, when I had none previously. Yep, 0 to 9 overnight. It was surreal, it was weird....but, here it is nearly 3 and half years later, and I've met most all of them. And, E & his family had only lived about an hour to hour & half away from Orlando (where I lived at the time). It's nice to have more family, but sad we didn't get to meet when we were younger. And, I may never have known if E & K hadn't been curious to find this missing sister of E's. So, at least we all know now and can keep in touch.

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Life sure is funny, I never thought I'd have a story (and this was the short & quick of it) like this to tell. Well, other than the one I already knew about my mom's side of the family (save that for another time)! Sorry, I didn't want to share names or pictures...sharing my story, not sharing all of them.

Has anyone else found out as an adult they were adopted? Or that they had more family than they knew about? It happens a lot more than people think.

Bil Jac Dog Food Review

I joined this site called BzzAgent and was able to be a part of a BzzCampaign for Bil-Jac dog food. This campaign included a coupon for a free bag of Bil-Jac dog food up to $18 and a bunch of $10 off coupons for me to share with friends. I gave away most of the coupons, but still kept one for myself. 

For the campaign, they ask that we Bzz about it on Facebook, Twitter, Face to Face, on our blogs..wherever! So, I did that...and they asked us to do a two bowl challenge and video tape that. 

Well, I decided to try this with my chihuahua, Parker. He's a semi-picky eater, so I was like what if...he actually chooses Bil-Jac over his regular dog food. I put a bowl with his dog food and one with Bil-Jac near each other on the floor and asked him to come over and eat. He started out slow...but eventually, he chose Bil-Jac and continued to eat it!!! I was impressed and shared the video with them...and now I'm sharing it here! 

Bil-Jac is a high-quality dog food that uses 10 lbs of chicken to make 15 lb bag of dog food. They tell you how much on every bag! Bil-Jac has more chicken in their food because dogs are carnivores and this provides more protein in their diet than any other dog food. You can trust Bil-Jac for high quality protein, natural fat sources, high quality carbohydrates (no fillers), and exclusive nutrient protection technology.

Small Breed Select Bil-Jac Dog Food

Bil-Jac products - They have Sensitive Solutions, Select Adult, Reduced Fat, Large Breed Select Adult, Small Breed Select, Puppy, Senior with Chicken and Oatmeal, Large Bree Puppy, and Small Breed Puppy! Plus they have treats - Liver Treats, Gooberlicious, Little-Jacs, Yapple-Nanas, and PB Nanas.

I'm a BzzAgent and I received no compensation other than the free product coupon and discount coupons from Bil-Jac. All my opinions are my own and my chihuahua's! LOL! :)

What You Ought To Know...(and mispronounced words)

A friend posted a link yesterday to a funny video on YouTube by the WhatYouOughtToKnow group. Well, that video (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UbSSQe6vsSw) was about what we say wrong - it was so interesting and funny! It made me watch more - on women, on veggie people, on the scientific method, on the way he does math, on the greenhouse effect, and 2012!, etc. I just couldn't stop - I must've listened/watched 20 videos yesterday. I stopped one or two that weren't telling me anything I cared about or funny. The rest were very funny and/or very informative.

So, here's their site: http://www.whatyououghttoknow.com/show/ and here's their youtube channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/WhatYouOughtToKnow. One brother films, one brother is filmed.

Check it out - maybe you'll enjoy and get some laughs...and maybe you'll learn something! Or maybe it'll inspire you to research something that you never thought of in that way! To see if What You Ought To Know is correct! Or, maybe you won't like, but...that's all up to you!

Here's a couple links about words we pronounce or spell wrong:
http://www.dailywritingtips.com/50-incorrect-pronunciations-that-make-you-look-dumb/
http://dmitrybrant.com/things-americans-say-wrong

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I am starting this blog to share and discuss things that I like learning about, just learned about, and want to learn more about! It could be any topic and it just might be random how often I post! I am rediscovering the blog! Hah. Hmm or maybe just discovering! I hope you enjoy! I hope you share and discuss with me! Thank you!